I acknowledge how these things have affected me in the past,
and the pain they’ve caused me.
Now, I accept that I can change to find harmony in my world 
and I make the choice to define myself. 
I release that pain and without resentment step beyond it 
into a freer and self-guided way of being, 
into the life of my choosing.
(A poem made from a paragraph in my soon to be in print book, "Healthy, Loving Relationships", from the section 'Our attitude to change')